Recently, a friend said to me, “I don’t make New Year’s resolutions. They’re just an excuse to judge myself.” I really liked this insight because I see the negative effects of resolutions in my clients all the time. It reminded me of a client I had a few years ago. She was in her twenties and came to see me after having a series of panic attacks followed by severe anxiety. She proceeded to tell me about all the things she should be doing but was “too lazy” to do. Her to-